Hi Loverly,
You wrote:
>I didn't realize I was a real BL until I was in my late 20s, maybe 30. Most
>BLs know they are before that, I was wondering what you thought about my
>late blooming and why that is. Thanks Doc.
I wouldn't say that MOST know what they are. Everyone has a different
experience. I had an idea of what I was in my 20s but I didn't have a
name for it, or a strategy to deal with it. It wasn't until I
discovered The Fort in 1999 that I had an enlightenment so to speak.
I remember being in 3rd grade and having feelings about a certain boy.
They were vague and dreamy feelings. About that same time, my Uncle
showed me the other side, the pedophilia side of boylove. It was, at
first, amazing and soon thereafter dark and abusive. The feelings and
attractions to other boys continued into my teens, even as I became
interested in girls. I even got married and had three kids before I
had a name for what I am.
When is not the important question. 'What will you do about it?' is
the important question. In my opinion, the answer to that question
starts with how you feel about boys and how much you understand about
your sexuality and the sexuality of boys. And once you have those
questions answered you need a strategy to live your life by.
As a boylover you are drawn to boys like a magnet. Fixated, you said.
But you have probably also noticed that they are drawn to you by an
equally strong magnetism.
I have known for a long time that boys are attracted to me. What I
discovered that made the difference is that they aren't sexually
attracted to me. They seek me out because they instinctively know that
they need something from me and I have what they need. That is where
boylovers make their big mistake - I made that big mistake. In order
to get what they need from you they will do what they need to do to
get it. That is a price no boy should pay. Every boy deserves,
inherently, as a birthright, the unconditional love of a man. Many
don't get that unconditional love and the role model they are looking
for. The ones that don't get it fill our prisons. I have had many boys
in my life. I have helped them all. And almost all I have been able to
help unselfishly. The key, as I said, is to have a plan.
I have left many unanswered questions Loverly because I want you to
think about things, apply them to your situation and ask me questions.
I do not want to dictate to you. I have philosophy of boylove that
works very well for me and it works even better for the boys that I
love. Here is what my philosophy offers: the opportunity to have a
close, intimate and completely rewarding relationship with a boy whom
you will love and who will love you. But the price you must pay is
steep. You will not be able to have sex with the boy. You must not.
You will be trading selfishness for altruism. That being said, my
experiences have been incredible and the young men I have nurtured are
turning out to be extraordinary people. A young person who receives
love they never thought they'd have really appreciates the love and
attention and they tend to try to exceed the expectations of their
father figure.
Think about it and let me know if you have questions.
Your friend in boylove,
Doc
NP-f31
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