The Boylove Relationship.
In most cases is the attraction between the boylover and the boy is
mutual. The boy is drawn to an adult who takes him seriously and
treats him respectfully. The boylove relationship is void of the
demeaning power struggles and restrictions which are customarily are
part of any child/adult relationship. In a boylove relationship, the
boy is afforded the chance to experience himself as a person. A person
who may have and express his own opinion, without running the risk of
having it cast aside as unqualified, or even "childish". His spirit,
as well as his body, are seen as a whole. Not as something that is
still in the process - a developmental stage on the way to adulthood.
A child is commonly viewed as someone who needs to grow up in order to
become a person. Society applies adult standards in order to shape and
mould the child. Personality traits that may be considered undesirable
or inconvenient, are often removed in the process of child rearing and
education.
As part of a boylove relationship the older partner accepts and
nourishes the spirit of the child. The boylover doesn't try to apply
adult standards of behaviour in order force the boy's spirit to fit
the mould. The boy experiences this acceptance of his own unique
character as something very special and pleasant. He feels free to
develop and grow, because his partner treasures his personality and
takes it seriously.
Although the adult partner is always in a position to exercise power
over the child, the boylover tries to avoid any power struggles within
the relationship. However, the boylover must be aware of the fact that
an imbalance of power is present in any adult/child relationship.
Therefore a situation may arise where he may need to raise this topic
with his partner.
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