Hello not so,
Unless you were actually abused by someone older than you, you really
can't accurately judge whether the abuse was harmful or not.
I was abused from age five because I was a beautiful child and other
reasons, like availability and opportunity for my abusers.
I'm happy that you got what you were looking for when you were 14. But
I wasn't seeking out the attention I got and forcible rape is not
pleasant, let me be clear with you about that.
From my perspective your post seems pretty self serving, a
justification even. I don't buy it. When I was 14, I ended my abuse by
kicking the living shit out of my abuser. My anger went outward, the
bulk of abused kids take their anger inwardly. Neither way is healthy.
A kid shouldn't have to learn about sex and lovemaking by having it
forced on them.
Stay Safe,
Doc
NP-f31
On Sun, 05 Feb 2012 14:03:15 -0500, not_so <not_so@innocent.com>
wrote:
>Socety stigmatises sexual activity among the young and yet, if we are
>honest, most of us know that we were sexually aware, and often active,
>long before the arbitrary age set by society.
>
>Kids are taught "not to touch themselves" "to be modest" "that sex is
>for marriage" - none of these are natural instincts and result in adults
>in whom sexuality is supressed.
>
>Of course there are cases of real abuse but I wonder how many abused
>children were actually traumatised by the hysterical reaction. If a kid
>leads an older one on to explore and they are caught - the line is to
>tell the younger one "it was not your fault"
>
>This is wrong - not because of who the blame is apportioned to, but
>because the very mention of blame suggests that perfectly natural sexual
>play with others is somehow wrong
>
>I grew up in the 1940's and was aware of body pleasure from as young as
>I can remember and was sexually aware and masturbating to orgasm by the
>age of 10. I did have experiences with other boys 2-3 yeas younger or
>older and I was never approached by an adult - but even in my very early
>teens I wanted to be - guess I wasnt cute enough or just didnt meet the
>right people.
>
>from about age 14 I started looking for fun in public toilets and
>started to encounter men and truthfully none of them were other than
>kind to me and never did anything I didnt want to do. I look back on
>those experiences without any regret or remorse. I do so wish I had
>pictures of myself having some of this fun.
>
>I am not trying to put down the kids that feel genuinely hurt or upset,
>especially those that are forced into situations they dont want - but I
>do not feel that arbitrary ages are the way to test someones ability to
>say "yes I want to" - our bodies tell us this.
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