On Sun, 01 Jun 2014 16:43:31 -0600, HMS Victor Victorian
<victorvictorian@hushunomail.com> wrote:
>On Fri, 30 May 2014 08:07:33 -0400, Doc NP-f31 wrote:
>
>>Dear Double V,
>>
>>I apologize for having missed your post for so long. The thread that
>>you posted to ended up not being the main thread. Allow me to give my
>>opinion on your interest statement. I will reprint it here to allow
>>others to follow and join in:
>>
>>Victor wrote:
>>
>>I have long maintained that, to best understand the motivations of
>>Boylovers, one must view the personal Boylove relationship precisely
>>as heterosexual relationships are viewed. In other words, to
>>understand Boylove, you must understand heterosexual love.
>>
>>I agree completely with your statement. I have loved both boys and
>>women/girls in my life. When I have fallen in love with a boy, and I
>>have had that frustrating honor, I have experienced the same emotions
>>and feelings as I did when I met and fell in love with the young lady
>>who eventually became my wife.
>>
>>I remember the moment when I fell in love with my wife. I looked into
>>her eyes and something grabbed me inside. I knew I wouldn't be the
>>same thereafter. It was a very similar feeling when I fell in love
>>with the boy I consider 'the love of my life'. I was looking into his
>>eyes and that overwhelming feeling of love overtook me. This time I
>>knew what it meant and it scared me because I knew I could not have
>>the same sort of relationship with him that I did with her.
>>
>>The feelings are the same. The instant attraction at first meeting,
>>the silly, but enjoyable feelings of infatuation, the feeling of
>>romantic love - they're all the same. We must simply learn to deal
>>with them differently. I was able to give my boy a real romantic kiss
>>as I taught him how to kiss when he acquired his first girlfriend.
>>That kiss blew the top off of my head. It had a similar affect on him
>>as well, as he asked for another. Two incredible kisses and I wanted
>>more, but it would have to do.
>>
>>The hardest part for me was learning to channel all of my sexual
>>energy into something else. I had to teach myself to make it about
>>him. Making it about me would have been disasterous. I was able to
>>make the right decisions, but that is for another discussion.
>>
>>I would be interested to read the opinion of others.
>>
>>Love to VV and all,
>>
>>Doc
>>NP-f31
>
>Dear Doc,
>
>Thank you for your reply. I had waited some time for a response but,
>as with other efforts I've made here over a year or more, garnered
>none.
>
>Yet in the interest of discussion, may I ask you:
>
>Why would it have been disasterous?
The young man in question is still marginally in my life. He is
married and has a beautiful daughter. I met with him a few years ago
before he got married. We had dinner together and were reliving some
good times. I got serious at one point and asked if he understood how
head over heels in love him I was. He said he did understand and he
thanked me for not pushing limits. He said that he would have probably
done anything for me, but he knows it would have messed with his mind.
He was happy that he never had to worry about. In his case, it would
have been a disaster. It would have been beyond selfish on my part.
There are other situations where things might have worked out. There
was one where things did. A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away.
Love,
Doc
NP-f31
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